Your guide to not messing things up when you interact with me
Boundaries
- Do not assume that life outside our immediate conversation is a party to the conversation unless I bring it up, I prefer things to be oil and water, not milk.
- Do not touch unless explicitly asked, or incapacitated, not at all.
- Do not misquote me, I likely do not care about you, as much as I certainly care about what I say.
- Do not make light of someone for trying or putting in an effort. If you think they are doomed, go help them.
- Do not assume any degree of trust between us when conversing, trust is built not assumed.
Baseline
- Take ownership of what you say, and when you fail to deliver on that, just acknowledge. Skirting responsibility is a horrendous look.
- Take effort seriously, it is respectable to try, even if the effort fails.
- Have the common courtesy, to not present to people slop content, nor use slop to mask your intent.
- Notice things, Observe your surroundings, there will be more cues than you can imagine.
- If I am being bristly, it is a very clear indication, I do not want to talk. So disengage, before you hear something regrettable.
Appreciated
- You can take the care to notice the finer details of interactions, and gleaming intent and reading the goddamn room. It's surprising how few people can capably do that.
- Be appreciative of the little things that people around you do, notice and compliment them.
- Be objective in assessment of things, stick to facts, and draw logical conclusions from those facts. There are few things more engaging than a well articulated train of thought.